A Parent's Letter to Her Child's New Teacher: “You've Seen the Diagnosis, Now Meet My Child.”
Summer days are coming to an end. Whether your summer was schedule-free, completely structured or somewhere in between, the beginning of the school year brings change and transition. Part of me is very ready for this transition. The other part of me is trying to soak in what’s left of our summer vacation while buying those crayons and pencils, and frantically flipping through back to school checklists. Above all, I’m confident that I’m doing what I can to bring on a positive school year experience. Goodbye sweet summer and welcome exciting, new school year!
Hello, School Year!
Here’s a letter I’m writing for my child’s new teacher. Feel free to use something like it yourself.Dear Teacher,I hope you had a relaxing summer. I hope your emotional batteries are recharged. I know how much you give during the school year and how exhausting that is. I also appreciate that your life is more than the classroom and that some days you need to dig very deep to enter the room with a smile or to repeat the instructions multiple times without screaming in frustration. Thank you. Let Me Tell You About MeYou will likely hear from me often. I am updating my IEP binder [see Tips on Making the Most of Your IEP binder here]. I am scheduling a visit to preview the classroom with my son. I have the checklists and I’m doing my best to prepare our home, our family and my son for a new school year [many printable routine charts here!]. I am a bit anxious about the change in routine and start of a new year in a new classroom. I’m also optimistic and hopeful that with new experiences come new opportunities for growth and learning! Meet My Son – Your StudentBy now you’ve likely seen the diagnoses and read the IEP. But I want to tell you more. I want to tell you that his hair is super short because he gave himself a haircut and we couldn’t salvage the locks. I want to tell you why he did it and how we are proud of how he dealt with it. I want to tell you that there is nothing sweeter than the first good morning interactions with this loving child. It’s helpful to know what he’s eaten that day and how it could be affecting his behavior. I see changes based on how the morning went, or his sleep, or how his brothers’ moods are impacting him. I think it’s all important and I’ll want to tell you everything. I also know that I can’t tell you everything. I will follow your lead. So…
- What is the best way to keep an open line of communication?
- Do you prefer email or a communication folder?
- Should we schedule regular meetings to check in on the phone or in person?
You and I are entering a partnership around a very important person and we both want to be set up for success. Let’s figure out a plan together! The Beautiful Boy Behind the Diagnosis.You have a lot of new students to meet. I can’t expect to flood you with details and ask you to know my son as I do. You’ll have your own impressions and perspective and that is valuable. You will gather information from reports, testing and IEP goals and this will give you invaluable insight into my son’s needs. For a fuller picture of my awesome child, however, I would like to present you with the following document from my child, about my child. Thank you for all you give. It’s going to be a great year.*Source: In 2012, Dr. Peter Rosenbaum and Dr. Jan Gorter published a paper entitled “F-words in Childhood Disability.”Tools for parents have been created and are available here. My version is a slight modification and my advice is to keep it one page and keep it simple. Attach it to the front of your IEP, bring it with your child to meet the teacher or better yet, if possible, ask your child to carry it along. How empowering!Create your own profile with a template found here.